Most cancer survivors are familiar with the inevitable "How are you?" question from family and friends. It is innocuous enough in most instances but can become challenging when it can't be answered with the obligatory "I'm Fine".
Ah... but for the cancer patient, and their circle of friends and family, this becomes a much richer exchange. To begin with, the friend comes with a genuine curiosity, heartfelt care and concern. They earnestly want to know "how you are", and equally earnestly want to hear that "you are well". Family and friends are our strongest hope bearers. They want us to be well, and if they could will it, we would all be well. There is no stronger healing power in the world than the love and prayers of family and friends!
Those who know me and have followed my blog know that I have always been forthcoming and detailed about my condition, my treatments, and my options going forward. But still... the greeting "How are you?" challenges me. How do I answer, honestly and succinctly?
I have finally found the response which now works best for me... "I am well enough." "Well enough" seems to sum it up for me at this particular stage of the journey. I am certainly not as well as I would like to be. I am not able to work in the job that I love. Nor I am not able to travel to Florida to visit my folks and many friends there. I can't even take a lengthy roadtrip to visit friends in the North, the Okanagan, or the Kootenays. It is difficult to plan much of my life beyond a few months at a time. Each of these things, and many others, are a cause for disappointment and some sadness. Alas!
And that brothers and sisters is W E L L E N O U G H!!
Be well enough... Rob, in Vancouver